On Anger

  

Be not hasty in thy spirit to be angry: for anger resteth in the bosom of fools. 

Ecclesiastes 7 : 9  

First of all, look intently at that bird, look directly into its eyes : do you like how it looks back at you? Certainly not. This is almost how you may look like when you get angry, and how uncomfortable you make others feel when you have an expression like that. 

Anger is not exactly the best of emotions. When handled badly, it ruins things, destroys long-standing relationships and puts you in a bad light before people. Prov 29 : 22 says that an angry man stirs up strife, and a furious man abounds in transgression. So, anger makes you a trouble maker and highly prone to doing wrong and sinful things because of your state of mind. Ecclesiastes 7 : 9 says that anger rests in the bosom of fools; so acting in anger actually makes you look foolish because by the time you look back at the action you have taken, or the words you must have spoken, you wished you would never have said or done done. It does not work the righteousness of God (James 1:20).

Reacting in anger makes you weak and defenseless; prov 25:28 says that anyone who does not have rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down and without walls. In the story of Jericho's defeat, the only way the Israelite army got through was through getting its walls broken and leveled to the ground. When you are unguarded because of anger, it makes you vulnerable to things thrown at you and easily penetrable by people's opinions; and when you are in that state, you become unstable : your heart and your mind are jarred and you do the wrong things. So, it is important to guard your heart so tightly because it will be impossible for your guards to be broken when the walls are impregnable. 

It is important to know what causes you to be angry because dealing with the root cause of anger makes it to lose its potency and grip over you especially when a similar situation arises again. This is line with what Proverbs 22: 10 said : cast out the scorner and contention shall go out; yea, strife and reproach shall cease; and also proverbs 26 : 20 said that where no wood is, the fire goes out. So, when you cut out the source of the offence, anger dies out naturally; that is why it is vital to identify what causes for strife or anger and take it out of the way. One of those root causes is the inability to communicate your point across to the other person as clearly as possible. sometimes, you find yourself in a situation where you lack the right words to communicate with, especially when the other person is more verbose than you are; or you simply do not wish to clarify the matter with who or what you are offended at. Another cause of anger is when you feel disobeyed and your instruction were not followed by those it was given... and a lot other causes. 

So, the right way to deal with in-communicability is to learn how to communicate; you may not have the right words to get your point across on the spot, but you can find it at a much later time. Be patient with yourself, take deep breaths, allow yourself to be calm; James 1: 19 said, let every one be slow to speak, and slow to wrath. Calmness helps you gather your thoughts together, and from a calm position you can speak with better clarity without any negative emotion; proper communication annuls anger. On the second point, when you are tempted to get angry with a disobedient behavior, restrain yourself and submit to the Holy Spirit to guide your actions According to the scriptures, disobedience is a spirit (Ephesians 2:2), so it cannot be force into submission by physical force or might. If you attempt to force it, you put both yourself and your subordinates at risk of bitterness and hatred. 2 cor 10:6 said all disobedience will be revenge when your obedience is fulfilled, so it is important that you're first submitted to the Holy Spirit, being calm and restrained from wrong actions. 

Anger has many downsides. It is therefore wise to refrain from it. Psalms 37: 8 advises to cease from it and forsake wrath; and if you are not able to refrain from being angry, then don't take actions in it (Ephesians 4 :26), and try to sort it out as soon as you can because you ought not to carry your anger into the next day. Also, since anger weakens the guard and makes one unstable, controlling yourself when you are angry speaks volumes of your strength and stability. proverbs 16 : 32 says that such a person is better than the mighty and the warrior that takes a city. So, this shows the high value and importance of keeping a cool and level head when offended at something or someone; and seeking the best way to resolve the situation. Today, ask the Holy spirit for help and determine to guard your heart from anger at all times. He will hear you and send you help. Amen! 

God bless you!